Today, are you that kind
of wife? Here are 7 Biblical tips to help us be as we should.
Share everything--dreams,
hopes, fears, bad days, good days, little things that don’t really matter,
computer passwords--everything. It builds a trust and communication level of
which most marriages can only dream!
Pick your fights. Really.
This one is hard for me sometimes. But some things are just not worth aruging
about. Some arguments aren’t even about anything--you have just both had a long
day and that person is there to take it out on. It is pointless to even go
there. Practice grace instead. We can have an opinion and no man likes a
doormat, but we also need to practice submission.
3. PRIORITIZE YOUR
HUSBAND
Don’t overschedule. Learn
to say no. You will both be pulled in a million directions all the time. Have a
set date night. Take turns planning surprises for the other one. Make time for
each other!
Make a budget. Be
realistic. Live tightly now so you can have freedom later. Make a five year
plan. Get out of debt. Don’t use credit cards--ever. Save an emergency fund.
Learn to be content. Be a good steward. Your life will be better and you will
thank yourself later!
Sometimes love is a
choice. Not a feeling, but a decision. That’s what makes Christian marriages so
powerful. When you have problems in the world, you get a divorce. When you go
through a rough patch in a Christian union, you choose to honor God by honoring
your spouse, even when you don’t feel like it. And there will be days. But
marriage is deeper than just two people; God is the glue. My behavior shouldn’t
be a reaction to what my husband is doing; it should be a reflection of my love
for God.
I love Ephesians 5:33
because it shows how well God knows us! He doesn’t tell the women to love, but
rather to respect. Women are natural lovers--we don’t have a hard time with
that--but we do have a hard time respecting our man sometimes. And that is what
he NEEDS. Men understand respect. They give it and they crave it. That’s why
God tells them to love; they already have the respect part down. If you want
your husband to feel loved, respect him!
The Proverbs 31 woman led
her life in such a way that her husband was praised because of it. We need to
be women like this. We can really hurt our husband’s ministry and influence by
dressing immodestly. Another man should never see our breasts, stomachs,
thighs, and many other parts, but I personally know men whose ministry has been
ruined by this very thing occuring. Our actions, conduct, and modesty in other
areas is equally important. Our lives must be worthy of praise in every aspect
and we can show faithfulness to both our husbands and God by honoring them in
the way we conduct ourselves.
HOW TO KEEP THE FIRE
BURNING:
1) Have at least one REAL kiss every day--at least
ten seconds;
2) Never go to bed mad. Stay up and fix it instead.
3) Say ten positive things for every one negative
you may need to say.
4) Always say I love you every chance you can.
8) Talk about the things that you admire in him.
Write them down in a card and put it where he will find it.
9) Don’t lose your own self.
10) Try not to say anything negative to him for one
week straight.
11) Give him at least two genuine compliments a
day.
13) Be understanding when you have reason not to.
14) Build up his self-esteem every chance you get.
15) Tell him he’s your hero.
16) Pray together and study together.
17) Be positive and upbeat.
18) Remember why you were attracted to him in the
first place.
19) Be the woman he first met and let him fall in
love with you all over again.
20) Most importantly, keep your focus on Christ! He
is the one who helps us to love as we should.
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